Issue 19 and 26-12-2025

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Issue 19 and 26-12-2025

Thought for the week

Christmas 1914: as told to Tony D’Souza

by Tony D’Souza

Perhaps it was the stillness of that night that was the most remarkable, an unearthly stillness, as if the gap between heaven and earth had lessened and become porous. I listened to the stillness for some time – though I don’t know if you could call it listening, I was more of a witness to it. The stillness lay over the frozen land like a thick blanket of fog.

Features

In thy dark streets: Rebecca Hardy on Bethlehem at Christmas 2025

by Rebecca Hardy

O little town of Bethlehem, how still we see thee lie!
Above thy deep and dreamless sleep, the silent stars go by.
Yet in thy dark streets shineth, the everlasting light;
The hopes and fears of all the years, are met in thee tonight.

As carollers sing this hymn this Christmas, they won’t all be thinking of Bethlehem, the birthplace of Jesus, as it stands today. But for many Friends, the town’s fragility will be close to their minds. Bethlehem, of course, is located in Palestine’s West Bank, just a few minutes south of Jerusalem.

Features

Lonely heart: Sanjive Mahandru on dealing with isolation

by Sanjive Mahandru

Are you lonely?

Did George Fox ever get lonely? He was imprisoned several times; he was in isolation for months – over two years at one time from 1664, so almost six years, in total, if you add his eight imprisonments together.

Features

Poem: The mystic’s Christmas

by John Greenleaf Whittier (1807-1892)

‘All hail!’ the bells of Christmas rang,
‘All hail!’ the monks at Christmas sang,
The merry monks who kept with cheer
The gladdest day of all their year.

News

Meeting for Sufferings: December Meeting - part two

by Rebecca Hardy

QCCIR paper on gender diversity

In the last morning session of December’s Meeting for Sufferings (MfS), Elaine Green, clerk to Quaker Committee for Christian and Interfaith Relations (QCCIR), spoke to a paper setting out a spiritual basis for Quakers in Britain to affirm and respect gender diversity. Initially described as addressing ‘the theology of trans inclusion’, the paper draws on Christian scripture, early Quaker writings, and the Yearly Meeting’s testimony of equality. It calls on Quaker communities to welcome all by fostering safety, compassion, and deep listening. QCCIR had spent nearly a year discerning how to support the trans-affirming spirit of Minute 31 of Yearly Meeting 2021, said Elaine.

News

Quaker compels action on landfills

by Rebecca Hardy Havering Council unanimously voted to pass ‘Zane’s Law’ last month, which requires…
News

Anniversary of Quaker Kathleen Lonsdale

by Rebecca Hardy The Quaker scientist Kathleen Lonsdale has been commemorated on Sky TV’s Portrait Artist…
News

Quakers call for more peer mediation

by Rebecca Hardy Educators and policy makers should mainstream peer mediation, Britain Yearly Meeting (BYM)…
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Quaker library explores France and Friends

by Rebecca Hardy The Library of the Society of Friends hosted a talk last week exploring representations of…
News

Comedy gigs raise funds for Gaza

by Rebecca Hardy Quakers have been supporting comedy shows which have raised over £60,000 for Gaza. 
Q-eye

Eye - 19 and 26 December 2025

by Elinor Smallman Marking a milestone Eye was delighted to hear that the London Link Group turned fifteen…
Letters

Letters - 19 and 26 December 2025

by The Friend An enchanted life The lovely review of Dis Gyrl: The Enchanted Life of Aunty Joyce Trotman…

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